Let’s be real—networking can feel weird. Especially when you’re walking into a room full of accomplished alumni and you’re still figuring things out yourself. The good news: no one expects you to be perfect. What they do want is to connect, give you advice and help you if they can.

You don’t need to have your future figured out to show up and connect. Every alum and recruiter was once where you are. They want to help – you just have to start the conversation.

Alumni and other networking events are low-pressure spaces designed for you ask questions, explore career paths and get inspired. If you’re hesitating about attending an upcoming networking event, we get it! Here are three tips to make the experience less awkward.

Here’s how to show up with confidence, even if you’re nervous:

1. Know Your “Why” Before You Walk In
Before the event, take five minutes to ask yourself:

• Why am I going to this event?
• What kind of advice or insights would actually help me right now?

Maybe you want to learn about jobs in public policy, or you’re curious how someone turned an English degree into a marketing career. Having a focus helps you steer conversations and makes it easier to start talking.

PRO TIP: Jot down one or two specific questions you can ask, like “What do you wish you’d known as a new grad?” or “How did you figure out what you wanted to do?”

2. Ditch The Pitch – Focus on Connections
Networking events are about discovery and are less formal than a career fair or interview. Instead of an elevator pitch, try leading with:

• “I’m exploring careers in ___, and I’m curious how you got started.”
• “I’m a [major] interested in [industry/field]. What was your path like after college?”

You’ll sound confident and human – no script required. When you lead with curiosity you’ll be less nervous or worried what to say next.

3. Follow Up Without the Awkwardness
After the event, send a quick thank-you message on LinkedIn or email. Keep it short and genuine:
Hi [Name], I really appreciated your insights at [Event Name]. Hearing about your journey into software design helped me feel less overwhelmed about starting out. It was great to meet you. Thanks for being there.

These small actions build your network over time, and they really matter.

Want more confidence boosters and conversation starters? Stop by LifeLab or schedule a 1:1 internship or career coaching appointment – networking doesn’t have to feel like a solo mission. You don’t have to have everything figured out to pay us a visit.